Big Day Ahead
It’s the night before an important event: a big exam, a major presentation, your wedding. How do you calm your nerves in preparation for the big day?
It’s forty-six years since my one toddle down the aisle, and if it weren’t for the photos, I wouldn’t remember much about it. As for the night before – no photos, no memories whatsoever.
My last exam was thirty years ago. I hypnotised myself the night before (and as I went in), to remember what I knew. It obviously worked OK. I got a high distinction.
I’ve never done a major presentation, and as for important events… Wallpaper just hangs on the wall. Nothing too important about that. And if it turns 70 and its family throws it a party, there are no nerves involved. It knows they’re unnecessary: it will just be a good party.
Mostly, though, I’ve found that the really important things in life happen unexpectedly, and there’s no time to get yourself in a lather about them. You deal with them. What choice do you have? Except not dealing, and I know from experience that crawling into a hole to rot only creates trouble, and lots and LOTS of stress for those around you.
You might think I’ve led a charmed life. I haven’t. I’m just old enough to have learned a few things, like how to say no to situations I don’t want to be in, and how to cope when a full bucket empties itself on your head.
This doesn’t mean I don’t lie awake all night worrying about possibilities and things I can’t change. Just means I’m used to lying awake all night. Annoying, but not terminal.